THE CRUX: SECRETS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LOVE RELATIONSHIP (LOVE SECRET 2)

THE CRUX: SECRETS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LOVE RELATIONSHIP (LOVE SECRET 2)

  December 03, 2018    InspireForte Solutions

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“Don’t feature in a future that God is not in the picture”.

Statistics reveal that 85% of dating relationships end up in breakups. This is quite worrisome. I certainly feel the solution to the issues of high percentage of breakups in dating relationships and marital divorces is for intending partners to increase their knowledge on how to build and sustain their relationships by connecting to the master builder, God Almighty. Their ‘titanic experiences’ can only be made better through Him. Else, their relationship will be another infamous titanic disaster.

STATISTICS REVEAL THAT 85% OF DATING RELATIONSHIPS END UP IN BREAKUPS.

THE BIRTH OF THE TITANIC

The world’s interest in the most fascinating historical story of the Titanic has endured for more than 100 years. In March 1909, the construction of the world’s largest passenger steamship was contracted to Harland and Wolff by White Star Line. The ship was built in Belfast, Northern Ireland. The Titanic was designed based on size and luxury with it being 883 feet long and 104 feet high on completion. Accommodations for first class passengers included: palatial state rooms some with their own promenades, along with a grand staircase, library, smoking room, squash court, sumptuous restaurants, and other amenities. Second and third class accommodations, while far less posh, were still considered better than their counterparts on other ships. The historic ship was built by 3,000 out of Harland and Wolff’s 15,000 workers. Reports reveal injuries to about 250 workers, with two workers dying in construction accidents in the shipyard and six more dying on board ship during building and fitting. Given the lax worker protection standards at the time, this was actually a good safety record.

Twenty-five stories high, weighing 46,000 tons, RMS Titanic, the largest moving object ever built at the time was ready to sail upon its completion in May 1911. Given calculations by the US Department of Labor’s Inflation tool, it cost $7.5m to build the luxury ship, which would be rightly equivalent to $174m today.  Clearly enough, so much was given to the building of the magnificent luxury ship, but not so much was being put into consideration for the Titanic to enjoy longevity and staying power because of one grave mistake.

THE DEATH OF THE TITANIC

On April 15, 1912 at approximately 2:20 am, the world was greeted with the shocking news of one of the deadliest commercial maritime disasters in modern history. Though the ship suffered technical issues which contributed to its destruction, but multiple reports also had it that the crux of the gargantuan tragedy was the response by a Titanic crewman who in a bid to allay the fears of passengers about the safety of the ship said: “Not even God Himself could sink the ship.”

The RMS Titanic on her maiden voyage collided with an iceberg off the banks of Newfoundland. This ugly incident claimed the lives of 1503 people, and with only 705 survivors. The ship that was believed to be unsinkable finally sank. It took 3 years to build the RMS Titanic, but just about 3 hours to be destroyed.

The sad story of the RMS Titanic is the same fate many relationships have experienced. Many people do so much in building their relationships, but leave God out of it confidently feeling it won’t sink because they feel they have what it takes to make it work. But they painfully watch their relationship sink when the going gets tough and because God is not involved, they find it difficult to turn things around. Every successful relationship is a product of God’s grace. Every successful union has God as its foundation. The Bible says in Psalm 11:3(GNT):

“If the foundations are destroyed what can they righteous do?”

When you make God the foundation of your relationship, then, be rest assured that He will hold it firm and it will never sink.

PUT GOD FIRST

I’m sure you’ll be wondering what I mean by putting God first in your relationship. This simply means making God your number one priority - by submitting to His will and involving Him in every decision you need to make and every action you need to take in your relationship. The Bible assures us of God’s promise in Jeremiah 29:11(GNT):

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

This scripture clearly reveals God’s intentions for our lives if only we can decide to put him first. He will hold us firm like the house built upon the rock.

KEY POINTS FOR A GOD-CENTERED RELATIONSHIP

The best and sweetest relationship is one centered on God and his word. Such a relationship will surely stand the test of times and blossom into a fruitful and happy union.

Here are key points to ponder on for a God-centered relationship.

1. BUILD YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE FIRST:

It is often so surprising to see many people jettison their spiritual life for a relationship. They are more interested in pleasing and impressing their partners than God. They abandon their ‘first love’ for their ‘new love’. They only tend to realize themselves when the love euphoria moments ends, by then they are already slaves to sin. I certainly feel allowing God to prune, break, mould and build you and your relationship is far greater than you doing it all alone and in your way. Grow in spiritual truths and learn to follow God’s leading. The Bible in Colossians 2:6-7(GNT) says:

“As you have therefore received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, Rooted and built up in Him and established in the faith, as you have been taught, abounding in it with thanksgiving.”

   2. BE CONCERNED ABOUT THE SPIRITUAL LIFE OF THE PERSON                 YOU WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH:

When choosing the person to be in a dating relationship with, one vital area to consider is their spiritual life. Don’t get it wrong – going to church doesn’t make one spiritual, neither does being a steward nor making financial contributions to the church are. Is the person intentional and devoted to God? Is the person genuinely born again? Does the person have a convincing personal relationship with God? Does he/she find the things of God interesting?  Do they consistently manifest the fruits of the Holy Spirit. Don’t date someone who’ll end up messing up your faith and drag you back into the world. Avoid trying to change people who are unwilling to change. Don’t date an unbeliever to avoid regrets later on. The Bible has a clear message on this in 2 Corinthians 6:14(GNT):

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness”?

3.  TALK ABOUT GOD:

Date someone who doesn’t feel disinterested and irritated when you bring up discussions about God. Talking about God will not only help in keeping your minds on Him, but will also conform, transform and build the faith of you both in Him. Is the person cold in this aspect? Think critically and wisely before making a commitment. God is the love you both share, and if the person is not excited or interested in godly things, then the person’s love is in serious doubt.

TALKING ABOUT WILL NOT ONLY HELP IN KEEPING YOUR MINDS ON HIM, BUT WILL ALSO CONFORM, TRANSFORM AND BUILD THE FAITH OF YOU BOTH IN HIM

Learn from this secret!

- by NWOSU J. OBICHI